tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2171878305381501834.post824332448089346857..comments2023-03-30T04:45:55.892-07:00Comments on Queen of Mental Vomit: C.R.A.S.S.: Child Sexual AbuseQueen of Mental Vomithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10530968615088198225noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2171878305381501834.post-12439617877232463462013-06-27T07:51:11.405-07:002013-06-27T07:51:11.405-07:00Thank you very much for your words and information...Thank you very much for your words and information. Psst...I also google myself too. Never know what a student might post about me. ;)<br /><br />Survivor SisterQueen of Mental Vomithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10530968615088198225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2171878305381501834.post-35489512707030584692013-06-20T06:01:31.179-07:002013-06-20T06:01:31.179-07:00Periodically, I perform a search of my name (how n...Periodically, I perform a search of my name (how narcissistic is that:) And come across a website that has it listed for some reason - usually for the reason that you are writing about. I have to tell you how much I admire your honesty about what happened and took place with you. I want you to know, as you may already be aware, the effects that you describe are so text book for people who have been through this sort of trauma. <br /><br />In terms of the sexual dysfunction, understand that this is what you learned very early on. In order to be liked or loved, you have to give what is most precious to you, in this case, your body. When we begin to truly understand in adult life what happened, we do not have the tools to be able to properly process that information and so we dig deeper into the dysfunctions that have already begun to plague us. There are many things that have changed in a positive way for me, but I still have memories and still have residual things that need to be managed. That is what people do not understand. When you've experienced this, it is not a matter of just "getting over it." It's a matter of understanding that some of what happened will never go away, and finding ways that are healthy to deal with those effects. It is, in a sense, a life sentence. <br /><br />Honest and not being silent anymore is the ONLY way to fix it. Perpetrators know that silence is their friend, but our greatest enemy. The act is terrible, but the after affects are so life stifling. My greatest challenge was dealing with the things I had done to myself and others in my adult life. I had a lot of forgiving to do, and a lot of forgiveness to ask for. <br /><br />The beauty in this is being able to look at yourself in the mirror and say "you know what, yeah, I did some crazy stuff - and I've done some great stuff....but even still, I really am okay. It's alright." That takes a long time to accomplish. <br /><br />Please keep in touch rhonda@rhondabegos.com, and let me know if you are ever in need of anything to help in this plight. <br /><br />God bless you for your bravery, spirit, and strength:) <br /><br />Rhonda<br /><br />rhondanbegoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06904192863822101639noreply@blogger.com